I don’t usually do book reviews here (I actually don’t know why, maybe I should), but this book I just finished (in a day!) just compelled me to write about it. I just couldn’t resist sharing it with the world. Now I’m not a fan of self-help books or memoirs, and this one is sort of both. But there were some phrases from the book I was exposed to in passing. They just happened to pull me towards them and I HAD to get my hands on this book.I recommend this book to anyone and everyone. We need to learn this sort of love, this form of giving. We need to learn to love ourselves before we are capable of loving anyone or anything else.
I have not read a book as brutally honest as Love Warrior in as long as I can remember. Its raw, its truth and its beauty. Glennon Doyle Melton writes about her pain in a way that is so precise and so apt, she literally lays out her insides bare for the world to see. During the entire course of the book I felt like the author was holding my hand and talking me through her journey, personally. Glennon is a brave soul, a woman so strong I just don’t understand where she gets these beautiful, bold perspectives from. She could be a prophet.
Though there are many many gems scattered throughout the book, a couple of them will always stick with me and I want to share with you what this fabulous human came up with:
Our true self versus our representative
Whenever we are going through a particularly tough part of our lives, we feel scared and alone, and instinctually run for cover and we hide. We turn to food, booze, irresponsible behavior that gives us a sense of ‘running away’. When faced with the world we hide our true, scared self and send our ‘representative’ to the world instead of the real, raw, hurting person. When asked how we are feeling, we lie and say ‘fine’. We think we are protecting our real selves. We send out this socially accepted façade, the one with stilettos and makeup and blow dried hair and a painted face. We hide the hungry, oily, grey, boring, sad but REAL person residing inside. This real person is the one that needs help. This person needs community, needs love, needs support. And the world can’t help this person until the world gets to see this person.
She says, ‘We can either be shiny and admired or we can be real and loved.’ Isnt that simply beautiful?
Embrace the fear
Throughout our lives we are taught to run away from fear, to find some kind of escape from the darkness that resides within us. Glennon, instead, talks about ‘walking through fear’ and not avoiding stuff that hurts you or is scary.
“You are not supposed to be happy all the time. Life hurts and it’s hard. Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because it hurts for everybody. Don’t avoid the pain. You need it. It’s meant for you. Be still with it, let it come, let it go, let it leave you with the fuel you’ll burn to get your work done on this earth.” – Glennon Doyle Melton
This book is sheer poetry. Honestly, I’m not one for trite or mushy statements but this book spoke to my soul. Please read it and breathe deep.